Do we have a life?

What does it mean when people say “Get a life!”?

As long as you are breathing, technically you have a life, right?

Having a fulfill life….

What does it mean to have a fulfill life?

Is it the same for everyone? I do not think so. I believe we are all very judgmental and narrowminded when it comes to looking at other people’s life.

Some people need to have a million things going on at the same time to feel that their life is not wasted.

Some people need to have plenty of ME TIME to feel that they enjoy life at their own pace.

Some people live for their work, lover, parent, children….they have one item in their life that dictate their actual life.

But when can you turn around to say that you have or had a fulfill life?

Scare of loosing out

Has this always existed even before the mobile phone?

Possibly to a certain degree, I remember reading Madame Bovary by August Flaubert. Loved that book by the way!

Anyway the main character in that book has a pretty boring life, I especially remember the few pages where she sits at the window remembering the ball she went to and awaits for the next invitation to that ball to feel alive again.

This is all she thinks about and she lives for that moment in time.

She cannot see or enjoy her between life and let’s say makes bad decision to avoid spoilers.

Anyway back to 21st Century where people cannot leave their house without their mobile phone fear they would miss out on a phone call, text or some kind of connection.

People keep checking their work emails and different tools in the evening and at the weekend, increasing the risks of burn out.

People loose themselves in meaningless scrolling on other people’s life not realising that their are wasting their lives?

Everyone has an opinion

So we are now all connected to one another.

Before a celebrity was untouchable, what I mean if you could see them on TV, Cinema….and there was Tour of their houses but the likeness of knowing what they were doing was based in interviews and papparazi work.

But now, you can follow them on Instagram directly and comments on their lives.

You feel you are part of their entourage, they mention they eat egg in the morning, you can answer on their page that you like egg too and you think that you are now Besties. Forgetting that there are another 6 millions followers who also like eggs or are intolerante to eggs….

People want to feel important, feel that their lives worth something.

So now, people start commenting on every aspect of everyone’s life.

Coming back to the eggs….

A celebrity will mention they eat 2 eggs every morning, and now you have the vegan starting confronting them about their belief that animal products should not be used because the animal did not give it permission to eat the eggs.

You have the less extreme mentioning that you should only eat organic eggs, free range eggs….attaching documentaries on how battery hens are treated.

The old battle between eggs means too much cholesterol, or no now eating egg is important as a good source of protein.

Because that person is that age they should eat more eggs- less eggs - the choice how they cook the eggs is no good

Poached, boiled, scrambled, fried….everyone will explain why each is the best and what oil should be used…..

The only thing that celebrity or influencer or person has mentioned was that for Breakfast they eat eggs.

Trolls, keyboard warriors, cyber bullying…..

Now we have to deal with all those people who could not touch us before.

You could be bullied at work, school but once you went home you could have some chance of restoring yourself.

But now people can get to you from every angle and at any time of the day or night.

People you do not know and should not care about starting making comments on how that outfit does not suit you, you have put on weight, lost weight, change your hair…..

So this blog is inspired because of a controversy that happened on one of my K-Drama where the wrong word was used in a wedding ceremony.

The Perfect Crown Controversy Kdrama started because during the coronation scene the word “Cheonse” was used instead of “Manse”

Even though I respect cultural differences, I do feel that the backlash are becoming worse and worse, the actors had to apologies and I think it is a little too much.

Will actor in the future need to get and review every single items of a show they are doing to avoid this?

Should it be the writers apologising instead?

The fact that it mentions that the drama is fiction, should this not cover the risk of some discrepancies?‍ ‍

Anyway why do I mention this?

Because internet trolls make me think of people who have nothing better to do than being negative and I think that is sad.

Big events and milestones

Moving on from what we cannot control, to questioning the options we have in life.

You have successes in life but how do you not get stuck in that moment for ever.

Those moments can be different for everyone and have a different impact in your life.

I always remember that episode in The big bang theory where the kids get candy for Halloween and the old man is dressed as a astronaut and mentions to each of them that in went to space once.

I am not dismissing this as an achievement but the risk is to get stuck in that one moment in time.

This might be your peak moment in life, and nothing will never be better than that.

But this is where you need to cherish that moment because like any other moments in life, it will be gone before you know it.

But getting stuck in this moment then can make you look pathetic, and you might be fine with it.

I mean would any man say that Hugh Hefner was pathetic being women so much younger until he was 91 years old? Good job dude for being who you are and having the charisma.

But if any other man in that type of age tries to get a younger woman does it not look a little pathetic?

Can you not find someone in your age range? Anyway I am digressing a little here.

You need to grow from the best moments but cannot be buried in them or trying to reproduce them all the time or those moments just become sad and pathetic in a way.

When you are 50 you cannot be 20 anymore and that is fine, you need to accept it and then find a good 50 year old activity.

Acceptance of new is required to evolve and not be miserable.

After all your wedding is only the beginning of the marriage!

In the end you only have one life, and I think it is good to sometimes stop and reflect on what you have achieve, what mistakes you made and what you want to achieve in the future and sometimes it means letting go of something you have cherished and work so hard for, but it does not belong to you anymore and you just need to accept it.